{"id":29629,"date":"2020-07-10T20:44:11","date_gmt":"2020-07-10T18:44:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=29629"},"modified":"2020-07-10T20:44:11","modified_gmt":"2020-07-10T18:44:11","slug":"opfoer-jer-som-voksne-efter-skilsmissen","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=29629","title":{"rendered":"Opf\u00f8r jer som voksne efter skilsmissen"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Drop \\”Opf\u00f8r jer som voksne efter skilsmissen!\\”<\/span><\/h1>\n

Psykisk vold kan v\u00e6re p\u00e5 spil i en konfliktfyldt skilsmisse. Her hj\u00e6lper gode intentioner om at opf\u00f8re sig ordentligt ikke. For at samarbejde med en voldelig eks kan v\u00e6re et overgreb – ogs\u00e5 mod b\u00f8rnene.<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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\n\tFor nogen tid siden ytrede en af Danmarks mest bruge eksperter inden for b\u00f8rne- og familieliv sig igen.<\/p>\n

Denne gang handlede det om at holde fred mellem for\u00e6ldre efter en skilsmisse<\/p>\n

S\u00e6rligt dem, der befandt sig i en konfliktfyldt skilsmisse.<\/p>\n

Jeg er helt med p\u00e5, at omtalte ekspert har de bedste intentioner.<\/p>\n

At hjertet sidder det rigtige sted.<\/p>\n

Men i konfliktfyldte skilsmisser er gode intentioner ikke nok.<\/p>\n

Slet ikke. <\/p>\n

For sandheden er jo, at der er \u201cnoget p\u00e5 spil\u201d i mange konfliktfyldte skilsmisser. <\/p>\n

Dette noget kan v\u00e6re psykisk vold. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Psykisk vold foreg\u00e5r i det skjulte<\/span><\/h2>\n

Psykisk vold er ofte usynlig<\/p>\n

Ikke kun for dem, der befinder sig omkring parret.<\/p>\n

Nej ogs\u00e5 for parret selv.<\/p>\n

Ud\u00f8veren kan have narcissistiske tr\u00e6k – hvilket f\u00e5r ham eller hende til at f\u00f8le sig som \u201cthe king of the world\u201d.<\/p>\n

Ufejlbarlig.<\/p>\n

I sin gode ret.<\/p>\n

Endda som den, det er synd for.<\/p>\n

Heller ikke offeret for volden forst\u00e5r altid, at det er vold, det handler om.<\/p>\n

For offeret er formet af voldsud\u00f8veren.<\/p>\n

Til at tro at man selv har misforst\u00e5et\/er for s\u00e5rbar\/kr\u00e6ver for meget – ja p\u00e5 alle mulige m\u00e5der er forkert.<\/p>\n

Det er en tilretning, der er foreg\u00e5et over mange \u00e5r.<\/p>\n

Langsomt.<\/p>\n

Dygtigt.<\/p>\n

Et skridt ad gangen.<\/p>\n

S\u00e5 offeret til sidst ikke aner, hvad der er op og ned.<\/p>\n

Eller hvad der er ret eller rimeligt.<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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\n\tHar du brug for st\u00f8tte til at komme ud af et konfliktfyldt eller voldeligt forhold? Eller til at komme igennem skilsmissen?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\n\tRing 30 26 55 03 og h\u00f8r hvordan jeg ogs\u00e5 kan hj\u00e6lpe dig. F\u00e5 20 min. gratis<\/a>.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Ondskab kan v\u00e6re pakket p\u00e6nt ind<\/span><\/h2>\n

N\u00e5r offeret for volden endelig er s\u00e5 k\u00e6mpesej at bryde ud af det forhold, s\u00e5 vil narcissisten reagere p\u00e5 at miste sin magt.<\/p>\n

Og fors\u00f8ge at f\u00e5 sin magt tilbage.<\/p>\n

Med s\u00f8de ord og lovning om bedring.<\/p>\n

Eller med h\u00e5rde ord og trusler.<\/p>\n

Oftest begge dele.<\/p>\n

Udadtil kan ud\u00f8veren v\u00e6re charmerende, vellidt, rolig og en god for\u00e6lder.<\/p>\n

Men sandheden er en anden bag lukkede d\u00f8re.<\/p>\n

S\u00e5 n\u00e5r vi beder et par, der er skilt, om at opf\u00f8re sig som voksne mennesker:<\/p>\n

Om at t\u00e6nke p\u00e5 b\u00f8rnene.<\/p>\n

Om at samarbejde.<\/p>\n

S\u00e5 skal vi huske, at vi ikke kender hele sandheden.<\/p>\n

For at bede et offer for psykisk vold om at samarbejde med sin voldsud\u00f8ver er som at lukke en kanin ind i r\u00e6vens hule.<\/p>\n

S\u00e5 k\u00e6re ekspert:<\/p>\n

T\u00e6nk f\u00f8r du taler.<\/p>\n

Tro ikke at alle mennesker er gode.<\/p>\n

At alle vil deres b\u00f8rn det bedste.<\/p>\n

En narcissist har det fint med at k\u00f8re over alt og alle i sin jagt p\u00e5 at kr\u00e6ve sit.<\/p>\n

Ogs\u00e5 sine egne b\u00f8rn.<\/p>\n

At l\u00e6gge afstand til en narcissist er det bedste, man kan g\u00f8re for sine b\u00f8rn.<\/p>\n

Og her h\u00f8rer d\u00e5rlige r\u00e5d om at opf\u00f8re sig som voksne mennesker ikke hjemme.<\/p>\n

For narcissisten er 5 \u00e5r indeni og kommer aldrig til at opf\u00f8re sig som en voksen.<\/p>\n

Og det er pr\u00e6cis den slags velmente udtalelser, der kan f\u00e5 narcissistens ofre til at blive endnu l\u00e6ngere i et skadeligt forhold. <\/p>\n

Is\u00e6r n\u00e5r r\u00e5det kommer fra en respekteret ekspert.<\/p>\n

One size doesn\u2019t fit all!<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Jeg stod i en konfliktfyldt skilsmisse – uden at vide det<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Overskrider du din gr\u00e6nse uden at vide det?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Drop \\”Opf\u00f8r jer som voksne efter skilsmissen!\\” Psykisk vold kan v\u00e6re p\u00e5 spil i en konfliktfyldt skilsmisse. Her hj\u00e6lper gode intentioner om at opf\u00f8re sig ordentligt ikke. For at samarbejde med en voldelig eks kan v\u00e6re et overgreb – ogs\u00e5 mod b\u00f8rnene. For nogen tid siden ytrede en af Danmarks mest bruge eksperter inden for …<\/p>\n

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