{"id":2691,"date":"2016-02-07T09:19:29","date_gmt":"2016-02-07T08:19:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=2691"},"modified":"2016-02-07T09:19:29","modified_gmt":"2016-02-07T08:19:29","slug":"vrede-inden-skilsmisse","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=2691","title":{"rendered":"Vrede inden skilsmisse"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Derfor ophobede min vrede sig<\/span><\/h1>\n

Engang l\u00e6ste jeg en masse b\u00f8ger om at bearbejde vrede og irritation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jeg l\u00e6ste om, hvordan jeg skulle l\u00e6re at t\u00e6lle til ti. L\u00e6re at sige pyt. Lade min vrede g\u00e5 ud over en pude. Jeg husker tydeligt, hvordan jeg stod og bed i h\u00e5ndkl\u00e6det p\u00e5 badev\u00e6relset, mens jeg skreg s\u00e5 stille, jeg kunne – for at dem p\u00e5 den anden side af badev\u00e6relsesd\u00f8ren ikke skulle h\u00f8re hvor frustreret, jeg var. <\/span><\/p>\n

Det var bare ikke nok. <\/span><\/p>\n

Slet ikke. <\/span><\/p>\n

Teknikkerne fik mig kun til at gemme min vrede v\u00e6k uden at interessere mig for, hvad den kom af. <\/span><\/p>\n

Derfor ophobede min vrede sig til l\u00e5get sprang af, og jeg n\u00e6rmest eksploderede af vrede. Og s\u00e5 fulgte mere vrede, surhed og afstand til ham, jeg fors\u00f8gte at komme t\u00e6t p\u00e5.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jeg var forkert<\/span><\/h2>\n

Jeg troede, min vrede var et sp\u00f8rgsm\u00e5l om temperament og at mit var s\u00e6rlig d\u00e5rligt. P\u00e5 grund af det var jeg irritabel og f\u00f8lte s\u00e5 meget vrede indeni. Med andre ord f\u00f8lte jeg, at det var mig, der var noget i vejen med. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mit selvv\u00e6rd<\/a> var ikke godt nok til, at jeg kunne se, at ikke hele problemet l\u00e5 hos mig. Jeg kunne ikke se, at min vrede og irritation skyldtes et d\u00e5rligt fungerende parforhold<\/a>. At min vrede ikke kun var mit ansvar, men mit og min dav\u00e6rende mands f\u00e6lles ansvar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vreden var kun det \u00f8verste lag<\/span><\/h2>\n

I dag ved jeg, at vrede d\u00e6kker over andre f\u00f8lelser. <\/span><\/p>\n

Jeg ser nu, at jeg havde et enormt savn. At jeg var ensom i mit \u00e6gteskab. Jeg var ikke d\u00e9r, hvor jeg gerne ville v\u00e6re i livet. Derfor lykkedes det ikke at d\u00e6mpe min vrede og irritation. De m\u00e5tte forl\u00f8ses p\u00e5 en anden m\u00e5de. <\/span><\/p>\n

Det ultimative svar for mig var at blive skilt. Kun p\u00e5 den m\u00e5de kunne jeg frig\u00f8re mig for de daglige irritationer og den konstante f\u00f8lelse af utilfredshed. Utilfredshed med mig selv, min partner og mit liv. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi fortjente bedre<\/span><\/h2>\n

Det var en l\u00e6ngerevarende proces, der kr\u00e6vede h\u00e5rdt arbejde og mange samtaler med en psykoterapeut<\/a> at tillade mig at tro p\u00e5, at jeg (mine b\u00f8rn og min mand) fortjente bedre end det, \u00e6gteskabet havde udviklet sig til. Det tog tid for mig at tillade mig selv at indse, at alt det h\u00e5rde arbejde for at blive sammen ikke bar frugt.<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e5r jeg m\u00e6rker vrede i dag, lader jeg den ikke hobe sig op. Jeg s\u00e6tter ord p\u00e5 den og f\u00e5r den ud ret hurtigt efter, jeg m\u00e6rker den. <\/span><\/p>\n

Og jeg har det godt med vrede. For n\u00e5r jeg giver plads til den, undg\u00e5r jeg at den kommer ud af kontrol. <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Derfor ophobede min vrede sig Engang l\u00e6ste jeg en masse b\u00f8ger om at bearbejde vrede og irritation. Jeg l\u00e6ste om, hvordan jeg skulle l\u00e6re at t\u00e6lle til ti. L\u00e6re at sige pyt. Lade min vrede g\u00e5 ud over en pude. Jeg husker tydeligt, hvordan jeg stod og bed i h\u00e5ndkl\u00e6det p\u00e5 badev\u00e6relset, mens jeg skreg …<\/p>\n

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