{"id":225,"date":"2015-04-17T17:51:04","date_gmt":"2015-04-17T17:51:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=225"},"modified":"2015-04-17T17:51:04","modified_gmt":"2015-04-17T17:51:04","slug":"fraskilt-er-jeg-en-fiasko-nu","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=225","title":{"rendered":"Fraskilt – er jeg en fiasko nu?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Fraskilt \u2013 er jeg en fiasko nu?<\/span><\/h1>\n

Ogs\u00e5 inden jeg selv blev fraskilt, havde jeg stor respekt for enlige m\u00f8dre. I mine \u00f8jne er enlige m\u00f8dre ofte nogle meget seje kvinder med styr p\u00e5 tingene. De seneste \u00e5r f\u00f8r jeg selv blev skilt, misundte jeg dem ligefrem: T\u00c6NK at have sit liv for sig selv! V\u00e6re fri for at v\u00e6re afh\u00e6ngig af en andens mening, holdning og lunefuldhed! Hvilken lykke!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Den dag jeg m\u00f8dte p\u00e5 arbejde og fortalte, jeg skulle skilles, udbr\u00f8d en af mine dav\u00e6rende kolleger: \u201dS\u00e5 er du en af dem!\u201d. Hendes bem\u00e6rkning kom bag p\u00e5 mig – for jeg h\u00f8rte ikke: \u201dWow du gjorde det! Du n\u00f8jes ikke med et d\u00e5rligt \u00e6gteskab! Du tager ansvaret for dit eget liv, din egen lykke og ikke mindst for dine b\u00f8rns lykke og barndom! De skal ikke l\u00e6ngere vokse op i det d\u00e5rlige klima mellem to for\u00e6ldre, der konstant taler forbi hinanden, sk\u00e6ndes og i den grad mangler overskud til deres b\u00f8rn!<\/span><\/p>\n

Den dag var jeg for tr\u00e6t og udmattet til at sp\u00f8rge ind til, hvad hun egentlig mente, men det jeg h\u00f8rte var: Fiasko! Du kunne ikke holde sammen p\u00e5 det allervigtigste (og allerhelligste) her i Dk-Danmark. FAMILIEN. Den ramme, dine b\u00f8rn har brug for. Nu kaster du dem ud i for evigt at v\u00e6re splittet mellem to hjem, mellem to familiekulturer. De skal for evigt savne en af deres for\u00e6ldre. Du \u00e5bner op for, at de skal forholde sig til fars og mors kommende (m\u00e5ske endda skiftende) k\u00e6rester. De skal m\u00e5ske bo sammen med andre voksne end deres for\u00e6ldre \u2013 m\u00e5ske ogs\u00e5 andre b\u00f8rn!<\/span><\/p>\n

Skilsmissen var undervejs i mange \u00e5r<\/span><\/h2>\n

Jeg er sikker p\u00e5, mange fraskilte har f\u00f8lt denne f\u00f8lelse af fiasko (det h\u00f8rer jeg i min konsultation). Selv syntes jeg, jeg var pissesej! Jeg gjorde jo netop noget ved situationen i stedet for at affinde mig med tingenes d\u00e5rlige tilstand. Og nej det var ikke en hurtig beslutning. Den var undervejs i mange \u00e5r, f\u00f8r jeg f\u00f8lte mig st\u00e6rk og modig nok til at f\u00f8re dr\u00f8mmen om at skabe mit eget liv ud i livet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Naturligvis m\u00e5tte ogs\u00e5 jeg igennem et st\u00f8rre sorgarbejde. Sorgen over at den intakte familie ikke kunne opretholdes. At mine b\u00f8rn og jeg skulle l\u00e6re at leve med daglige savn. Sorgen over dr\u00f8mme, der ikke l\u00e6ngere kunne f\u00f8res ud i livet (n\u00e5r man ikke er sammen med sine b\u00f8rns far, kan man ikke tage fri et halvt \u00e5r og k\u00f8re tv\u00e6rs over USA i en autocamper). Der var juleaftener og f\u00f8dselsdage med fyldt med savn. Komplikationer med mine b\u00f8rns far, der naturligvis vedblev at se mange ting anderledes end jeg \u2013 det var jo derfor, vi blev skilt.
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\nMen en fiasko har jeg aldrig f\u00f8lt mig som. Jeg har hele tiden gjort tingene s\u00e5 godt som jeg kunne. Jeg er klar over, det ikke altid har v\u00e6ret optimalt, men jeg gjorde, hvad jeg form\u00e5ede p\u00e5 det p\u00e5g\u00e6ldende tidspunkt.<\/span><\/p>\n

Og s\u00e5 er man da ikke en fiasko, vel?<\/span><\/p>\n

F\u00e5 5 tips til at komme godt igennem skilsmissen<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Fraskilt \u2013 er jeg en fiasko nu? Ogs\u00e5 inden jeg selv blev fraskilt, havde jeg stor respekt for enlige m\u00f8dre. I mine \u00f8jne er enlige m\u00f8dre ofte nogle meget seje kvinder med styr p\u00e5 tingene. De seneste \u00e5r f\u00f8r jeg selv blev skilt, misundte jeg dem ligefrem: T\u00c6NK at have sit liv for sig selv! …<\/p>\n

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