{"id":220,"date":"2015-04-17T17:50:02","date_gmt":"2015-04-17T17:50:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=220"},"modified":"2015-04-17T17:50:02","modified_gmt":"2015-04-17T17:50:02","slug":"ansvarsfordeling-og-intranet","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=220","title":{"rendered":"Kan alle bruge skolens intranet? Om ansvarsfordeling efter skilsmissen"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Kan alle bruge skolens intranet?
\nOm ansvarsfordeling efter skilsmissen<\/span><\/h1>\n

En af de store forandringer n\u00e5r du bliver skilt er, at du ikke l\u00e6ngere har indflydelse p\u00e5 og er ansvarlig for, hvad der sker hjemme hos den anden for\u00e6lder. Som psykoterapeut<\/a>\u00a0h\u00f8rer jeg ofte, at den ene part fortsat tager ansvar p\u00e5 den andens vegne (det er som oftest kvinden).<\/span><\/p>\n

Han kan jo ikke<\/span><\/h4>\n

Et klassiske eksempel er skolens intranet.
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I \u00e5revis har du m\u00e5ske taget ansvar for at f\u00f8lge op p\u00e5 de ting, der bliver posted her. Efter skilsmissen<\/a> t\u00e6nker du m\u00e5ske ikke over det, men forts\u00e6tter denne arbejdsfordeling. Glemmer du, at det ikke l\u00e6ngere er dit ansvar at informere barnets far? Hvis barnet i hans dage ikke f\u00e5r 25 kr. samt turrygs\u00e6k med de rigtige dage, er det ikke l\u00e6ngere dit ansvar. <\/span><\/p>\n

De indvendinger, jeg oftest h\u00f8rer her er: \\”Han kan ikke finde ud af at bruge intranettet\u201d og \u201ddet vil jo v\u00e6re synd for barnet, hvis det ikke har rygs\u00e6k og penge med\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

St\u00e5r det p\u00e5 intra?<\/span><\/h4>\n

N\u00e5r du tager ansvaret, kommer du til at bruge en masse energi p\u00e5 noget, der reelt ikke har med dig at g\u00f8re. Det er energi, som du kommer til at mangle til de mange ting, som du skal tage dig af. Energien g\u00e5 i sidste ende fra dig og dine b\u00f8rn og den tid, I har sammen.<\/p>\n

Samtidig skaber du et falsk billede af den anden for\u00e6lder. Hvis den anden for\u00e6lder ikke har styr p\u00e5 logistikken, s\u00e5 m\u00e5 dine b\u00f8rn gerne se det! Dine b\u00f8rn har de for\u00e6ldre, de har. P\u00e5 godt og ondt.
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N\u00e5r du beslutter dig for ikke l\u00e6ngere at tage ansvaret, kan du opdage at din ekspartner efter nogen tid netop begynder p\u00e5 det, du har brug for: At g\u00e5 p\u00e5 intranettet og selv indhente informationer.
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[spacer height=\\”40px\\”]N\u00e5r du giver slip, vil du f\u00e5 frigjort en masse energi til andre ting.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Al begyndelse er sv\u00e6r<\/span><\/h4>\n

M\u00e5ske vil den anden for\u00e6lder glemme alt muligt. Og skrive til dig i en lind str\u00f8m om, hvordan det nu er med dette og hint. Men det aftager, hvis du st\u00e5r fast.
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Du kan opstille to regler: St\u00e5r det p\u00e5 intra, s\u00e5 svarer du ikke. Har du tidligere svaret p\u00e5 sp\u00f8rgsm\u00e5let, s\u00e5 gentager du ikke svaret. <\/span><\/p>\n

Meld reglerne ud til din ekspartner. Ogs\u00e5 dette frig\u00f8r en masse energi.
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T\u00e6nk p\u00e5, at det ogs\u00e5 er godt for dine b\u00f8rns anden for\u00e6lder at klare tingene selv uden at v\u00e6re afh\u00e6ngig af sin ekspartners hukommelse.
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Det er ogs\u00e5 godt for dine b\u00f8rn, at du ikke l\u00e6ngere bliver sm\u00e5gnaven over at tilsides\u00e6tte dig selv for at forts\u00e6tte med at stille dig til r\u00e5dighed som tovholder.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Kan alle bruge skolens intranet? Om ansvarsfordeling efter skilsmissen En af de store forandringer n\u00e5r du bliver skilt er, at du ikke l\u00e6ngere har indflydelse p\u00e5 og er ansvarlig for, hvad der sker hjemme hos den anden for\u00e6lder. Som psykoterapeut\u00a0h\u00f8rer jeg ofte, at den ene part fortsat tager ansvar p\u00e5 den andens vegne (det er …<\/p>\n

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