{"id":214,"date":"2015-04-17T17:46:40","date_gmt":"2015-04-17T15:46:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=214"},"modified":"2015-04-17T17:46:40","modified_gmt":"2015-04-17T15:46:40","slug":"at-blive-sammen-for-boernenes-skyld","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=214","title":{"rendered":"At blive sammen for b\u00f8rnenes skyld"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bliver du for b\u00f8rnenes skyld?<\/span><\/h1>\n

At blive skilt g\u00e5r h\u00e5nd i h\u00e5nd med skyldf\u00f8lelse.<\/span><\/p>\n

Skyldf\u00f8lelse over at svigte sine b\u00f8rn ved at rive deres barndomshjem midt over, g\u00f8re dem til nomader mellem to hjem og lade dem leve med det konstante savn af den for\u00e6lder, de ikke er hos lige nu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Men det er jo langt fra hele sandheden. Det hjem, der brydes op, er jo ikke et lykkeligt hjem. Det er et hjem fyldt med smerte. Et hjem fyldt med sk\u00e6nderier, kold luft, uvenskab, manglende overskud.
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\nJeg husker, hvordan min \u00e6ldste datter (hun var 6, da vi br\u00f8d op) sj\u00e6ldent deltog i m\u00e5ltiderne mere end f\u00e5 minutter ad gangen. Hun kunne ganske enkelt ikke udholde den trykkede stemning over frikadellerne. Da vi var flyttet hver for sig, kunne hun for f\u00f8rste gang i sit liv sidde l\u00e6nge med ved bordet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bliver du for din egen skyld?<\/span><\/h2>\n

M\u00e5ske h\u00f8rer du til dem, der bliver sammen med din partner \u201cfor b\u00f8rnenes skyld\u201d: T\u00e6nk dig om en gang til: Er det i virkeligheden for din egen skyld, du holder sammen p\u00e5 hjemmet? Har du allerede i \u00e5revis fors\u00f8gt at rette op p\u00e5 det d\u00e5rlige parforhold? Konstant t\u00e6nkt at det nok bliver bedre i morgen\/efter jul\/efter ferien? Har du v\u00e6ret i terapi <\/a>eller parterapi<\/a> uden det havde den store positive effekt p\u00e5 dit parforhold? M\u00e5ske fordi du inderst inde ved, at det er for sent: Forholdet er slut?<\/span><\/p>\n

Bliver du for din egen skyld, fordi du godt ved, det kr\u00e6ver blod, sved og t\u00e5rer at rejse sig efter en skilsmisse? Har du ikke lyst til at udskifte dit dejlige hus med en lille lejlighed i et socialt boligbyggeri? Til at m\u00e5tte undv\u00e6re bilen og de fede ferier hvis du bliver skilt?<\/span><\/p>\n

Husker du, at du ikke kan skjule noget for b\u00f8rn? At b\u00f8rn opfanger alt mellem for\u00e6ldrene og m\u00e6rker selv det mindste stemningsskift? T\u00e6nker du p\u00e5, at du l\u00e6rer dem, de ikke kan stole p\u00e5 deres fornemmelser, n\u00e5r du viser dem, at udadtil er alt ok? N\u00e5r de m\u00e6rker, den er gal, men ikke bliver m\u00f8dt i det, s\u00e5 g\u00f8r de sig selv forkert. <\/span><\/p>\n

For n\u00e5r far og mor viser\/siger at alt er ok, s\u00e5 m\u00e5 det v\u00e6re MIN oplevelse, der er forkert.<\/span><\/p>\n

… og s\u00e5 er JEG forkert.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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B\u00f8rnene l\u00e6rer noget vigtigt<\/span><\/h2>\n

Ved en skilsmisse<\/a> mister b\u00f8rnene en masse. Det kan vi ikke komme udenom. De bliver nomader. De mister at se far og mor hver dag.<\/span><\/p>\n

Heldigvis f\u00e5r de ogs\u00e5 en masse: Efter nogen tid f\u00e5r de to glade for\u00e6ldre, der nu har overskud til at v\u00e6re sammen med deres b\u00f8rn. B\u00f8rnene l\u00e6rer, at de ikke beh\u00f8ver byde sig selv at leve i et uudholdeligt klima, men at der er en vej ud af alt det triste. De f\u00e5r visheden om, at de kan \u00e6ndre tilv\u00e6relsen til det bedre, at de kan have indflydelse p\u00e5, hvordan deres liv former sig. De l\u00e6rer at man gerne m\u00e5 tage sig godt af sig selv i stedet for at ofre sig eller negligere egne f\u00f8lelser og behov.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hvad med dig? Har du ikke ogs\u00e5 fortjent at have det godt? Hvad \u00f8nsker du for dig og dine b\u00f8rn?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Skal jeg skilles?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bliver du for b\u00f8rnenes skyld? At blive skilt g\u00e5r h\u00e5nd i h\u00e5nd med skyldf\u00f8lelse. Skyldf\u00f8lelse over at svigte sine b\u00f8rn ved at rive deres barndomshjem midt over, g\u00f8re dem til nomader mellem to hjem og lade dem leve med det konstante savn af den for\u00e6lder, de ikke er hos lige nu. Men det er jo …<\/p>\n

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