{"id":2127,"date":"2015-12-10T21:39:32","date_gmt":"2015-12-10T20:39:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=2127"},"modified":"2015-12-10T21:39:32","modified_gmt":"2015-12-10T20:39:32","slug":"hvor-mange-juleaftener-holder-dine-boern","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=2127","title":{"rendered":"Hvor mange juleaftener holder dine b\u00f8rn?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\\\"pl-2127\\\"  class=\\\"panel-layout\\\" >\n<div id=\\\"pg-2127-0\\\"  class=\\\"panel-grid panel-no-style\\\" >\n<div id=\\\"pgc-2127-0-0\\\"  class=\\\"panel-grid-cell\\\"  data-weight=\\\"0.66692546583851\\\" >\n<div id=\\\"panel-2127-0-0-0\\\" class=\\\"so-panel widget widget_sow-editor panel-first-child panel-last-child widgetopts-SO\\\" data-index=\\\"0\\\" data-style=\\\"{&quot;background_image_attachment&quot;:false,&quot;background_display&quot;:&quot;tile&quot;}\\\" >\n<div class=\\\"so-widget-sow-editor so-widget-sow-editor-base\\\">\n<div class=\\\"siteorigin-widget-tinymce textwidget\\\">\n<h1><span class=\\\"groen-stor\\\">Hvor mange juleaftener holder dine b\u00f8rn?<\/span><\/h1>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Julen er en af vores mest traditionsbundne h\u00f8jtider. <\/p>\n<p>Is\u00e6r b\u00f8rnene kan lide, at alt er, som det plejer. <\/p>\n<p>Men n\u00e5r far og mor er skilt kan det v\u00e6re en udfordring for alle at f\u00e5 de mange brikker i puslespillet til at passe sammen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Det g\u00f8r ondt at undv\u00e6re sine b\u00f8rn i julen. Det g\u00f8r ondt, at juletraditionerne \u00e6ndres. At ikke alt er, som det var. Ikke kun for dig, din ekspartner og for b\u00f8rnene. Men ogs\u00e5 for dem omkring jer.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\\\"groen-mellem\\\">Hvad med juleaften?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Den vigtigste dag i juleferien er naturligvis 24. december: Juleaften.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Der er tre oplagte m\u00e5der at holde aftenen:<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[su_list icon=\\&#8221;icon: circle-thin\\&#8221; icon_color=\\&#8221;#F49D1A\\&#8221;]<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>F\u00e6lles jul (far-mor-og-b\u00f8rn),[su_spacer size=\\&#8221;5\\&#8221;]<\/li>\n<li>to juleaftener (en hos far, en hos mor) eller[su_spacer size=\\&#8221;5\\&#8221;]<\/li>\n<li>b\u00f8rnene holder jul p\u00e5 skift (lige \u00e5r hos mor, ulige \u00e5r hos far).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>[\/su_list]<\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Lad os tage dem en ad gangen:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\\\"groen-mellem\\\">F\u00e6lles jul<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Fordelen er, at ingen skal savne hinanden. Alle er sammen p\u00e5 dagen. Ingen bliver snydt for noget.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Desv\u00e6rre ser jeg en fare for, at du sender nogle meget blandede signaler til b\u00f8rnene.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Der findes n\u00e6ppe et barn, hvis for\u00e6ldre er skilt, der ikke inderste inde \u00f8nsker, at far og mor finder sammen igen. Ved at holde f\u00e6lles jul risikerer du at give b\u00f8rnene et falsk h\u00e5b om, at I finder sammen igen. Dette n\u00e6res af, at I m\u00e5ske ogs\u00e5 holder ferier og skolearrangementer sammen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Og hvordan er det med stemningen? Risikerer b\u00f8rnene at bruge det meste af juleaften p\u00e5 at tage temperaturen p\u00e5 stemningen mellem far og mor? <\/p>\n<p>Skal de bruge energi p\u00e5 at glatte ud, s\u00e5 I ikke kommer til at sk\u00e6ndes? <\/p>\n<p>Tro ikke at du kan skjule dine f\u00f8lelser for b\u00f8rn \u2013 de har en meget veludviklet sans for stemninger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">T\u00e6nk ogs\u00e5 p\u00e5, hvordan du vil have det med at holde jul sammen med nye k\u00e6rester \u2013 og m\u00e5ske deres b\u00f8rn. <\/p>\n<p>Det bliver hurtigt mudret. Og n\u00e5r det bliver det, s\u00e5 vil du sikkert blive tvunget til at \u00e6ndre p\u00e5 traditionen med at holde f\u00e6lles jul. <\/p>\n<p>Overvej, om det ikke er bedst for alle at rive plasteret af \u00e9n gang for alle. En skilsmisse griber ind i utrolig mange omr\u00e5der af jeres liv. <\/p>\n<p>Hvis du venter med at gennemf\u00f8re den p\u00e5 nogle af disse omr\u00e5der \u2013 ja s\u00e5 forl\u00e6nger du den faktisk.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\\\"groen-mellem\\\">To juleaftener<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">En anden model er, at b\u00f8rnene holder to juleaftener: En med far og en med mor. <\/p>\n<p>Men \u00e6rlig talt, er det ikke mest for de voksnes skyld? <\/p>\n<p>S\u00e5 de slipper for den d\u00e5rlige samvittighed? Og ikke selv skal savne b\u00f8rnene juleaften?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Naturligvis vil b\u00f8rnene savne den voksne, der ikke er der. <\/p>\n<p>B\u00f8rn er dog gode til at v\u00e6re i nuet. <\/p>\n<p>Og savn er en del af at leve i en skilsmissefamilie. <\/p>\n<p>Ogs\u00e5 n\u00e5r det er juleaften.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">If\u00f8lge kalenderen er det juleaften den 24. december \u2013 skal det ikke ogs\u00e5 v\u00e6re det, for dine b\u00f8rn? <\/p>\n<p>Hvis I holder to juleaftener, bliver aftenen mindre s\u00e6rlig. Og med to juleaftener l\u00e6gger I endnu et arrangement ind i b\u00f8rnenes m\u00e5ske allerede proppede kalender.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Alternativt kan b\u00f8rnene holde lillejuleaften hos den ene, og juleaften hos den anden for\u00e6lder. <\/p>\n<p>I nogle\u00a0familier er det fx tradition at spise risengr\u00f8d eller\u00a0lave konfekt lillejuleaften.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\\\"groen-mellem\\\">Juleaften p\u00e5 skift<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">N\u00e5r I v\u00e6lger at holde jul hver for sig, s\u00e5 tager I ansvar for skilsmissen. <\/p>\n<p>I signalerer tydeligt over for b\u00f8rnene, at I er skilt. Det er sv\u00e6rt, s\u00f8rgeligt og trist. Men det er s\u00e5dan det ER.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\\\"broed-text\\\">Jeg opfordrer altid skilsmissefor\u00e6ldre til at have en langtidsplan for fordeling af weekender og ferier. Det giver ro for alle at vide, hvad der skal ske.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Hvis I voksne har det godt med det aftalte, er det langt nemmere for b\u00f8rnene at falde til ro. <\/p>\n<p>B\u00f8rn har brug for tydelige voksne. Og det er helt fint at sige til dem, at far og mor er skilt. 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Julen er en af vores mest traditionsbundne h\u00f8jtider. Is\u00e6r b\u00f8rnene kan lide, at alt er, som det plejer. Men n\u00e5r far og mor er skilt kan det v\u00e6re en udfordring for alle at f\u00e5 de mange brikker i puslespillet til at passe sammen. 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