{"id":1547,"date":"2015-07-02T15:41:53","date_gmt":"2015-07-02T15:41:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=1547"},"modified":"2015-07-02T15:41:53","modified_gmt":"2015-07-02T15:41:53","slug":"venner-efter-skilsmissen","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/astra.stinezink.dk\/?page_id=1547","title":{"rendered":"Venner efter skilsmissen"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Vi skal da v\u00e6re venner efter skilsmissen<\/span><\/h1>\n

At v\u00e6re venner med sin eks er noget, der ofte st\u00e5r h\u00f8jt p\u00e5 \u00f8nskesedlen, n\u00e5r et par g\u00e5r fra hinanden. For mange ses det som det naturligste i verden at v\u00e6re venner med sin eks efter en skilsmisse<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Parret kan have de bedste intentioner om at bevare et venskab efter en skilsmisse: Holde jul og f\u00f8dselsdage sammen. Begge deltage i b\u00f8rnenes arrangementer i vuggestue\/b\u00f8rnehave\/skole\/fritidsaktiviteter. En f\u00e6lles ferie synes ogs\u00e5 som en god id\u00e9.
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Et venskab mellem for\u00e6ldre er godt for b\u00f8rnene.
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Er det ikke?<\/span><\/p>\n

Kom videre efter skilsmisse<\/span><\/h2>\n

Jeg kender til ganske f\u00e5 tilf\u00e6lde hvor det (indtil videre) er lykkedes at bevare et reelt venskab. Min oplevelse er dog, at planen om venskab og om at forts\u00e6tte \\”som f\u00f8r\\” sl\u00e5r fejl p\u00e5 et eller andet tidspunkt.<\/span><\/p>\n

Der er jo en \u00e5rsag til, man er blevet skilt! Det kan ske l\u00e6nge efter det egentlige brud. I mellemtiden kan arrangementet forvirre b\u00f8rnene. For n\u00e5r I er s\u00e5 gode venner, og kan alt muligt sammen, hvorfor kan I s\u00e5 ikke v\u00e6re k\u00e6rester og bo sammen?<\/span><\/p>\n


\nEn skilsmisses mange faser tager \u00e5r at komme igennem. Har de voksne sv\u00e6rt ved at finde ud af, om de vil v\u00e6re sammen eller ej, kan de tr\u00e6kke denne proces endnu l\u00e6ngere ud. Hvis de efter bruddet lever i en slags elastikforhold, hvor de m\u00e5ske oveni k\u00f8bet flytter hver for sig og sammen flere gange, f\u00e5r hverken b\u00f8rn eller voksne den afslutning, de har brug for til at l\u00e6gge skilsmissen bag sig.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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B\u00f8rn \u00f8nsker ikke, at deres for\u00e6ldre bliver skilt<\/span><\/h2>\n

I den ideelle verden bliver for\u00e6ldre ikke skilt, men lever lykkeligt sammen. Virkeligheden er en anden, og det n\u00e6stbedste kan v\u00e6re den bedste l\u00f8sning.<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e5r vi voksne tr\u00e6ffer en beslutning om at blive skilt, m\u00e5 vi ogs\u00e5 st\u00e5 ved den. Det mener jeg ikke, vi g\u00f8r ved at flytte fra hinanden og udadtil forts\u00e6tte som hidtil.
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Ofte har beslutningen om at blive skilt v\u00e6ret \u00e5r undervejs – hvilket har kunnet m\u00e6rkes p\u00e5 familiens klima. Nu er den truffet, og for\u00e6ldrene bor hver for sig. Uanset hvor gode venner for\u00e6ldrene mener de er, s\u00e5 ligger der i den f\u00f8rste lange tid sp\u00e6ndinger lige under overfladen. Disse sp\u00e6ndinger opfanger b\u00f8rnene og bliver p\u00e5virket af. Pr\u00e6cis som de bliver p\u00e5virket af at leve i en krigszone mellem for\u00e6ldre, der endnu ikke er g\u00e5et fra hinanden.<\/span><\/p>\n

Finde sig selv efter skilsmissen<\/span><\/h2>\n

Jeg tror p\u00e5, at de voksne er n\u00f8dt til at finde hver sin platform at st\u00e5 p\u00e5. Finde sig selv efter skilsmissen (evt. med hj\u00e6lp fra en psykoterapeut<\/a>). V\u00e6lge en retning for sig selv inden en ny form for venskab med den tidligere partner er realistisk. At forts\u00e6tte som hidtil forvirrer b\u00f8rnene og n\u00e6rer deres evige h\u00e5b om, at far og mor finder sammen igen.
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Samtidig risikerer vi at forhale processen med at blive skilt. Med at adskille os fra vores tidligere partner. Hermed forsinker vi ogs\u00e5 at finde vores eget fodf\u00e6ste og indg\u00e5 i nye relationer, som kan v\u00e6re bedre for os.
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S\u00e5 til dig, der v\u00e6lger et clean cut vil jeg sige: Hav ikke d\u00e5rlig samvittighed over at adskille jeres liv. IKKE holde jul, f\u00f8dselsdage og ferier sammen. Jeg tror p\u00e5, det er bedst for b\u00e5de b\u00f8rn og voksne at hive plasteret af i \u00e9t snuptag frem for at tr\u00e6kke pinen ud.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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